A Blog by Adrienne Wallace

My very smart, aware and ever evolving brother said to me a while back that there is and will always be a significant difference between boys and MEN. He shared a strong and poignant opinion that a lack of self respect often the self hatred , absence of love, abuse, or negative cultural conditioning will always impact whether or not someone who is biologically a man is truly that (an adult man) mentally and socially. He and I both believe that it is indicative most often in the way a man treats a woman. I can tell you some stories. There are boys over 30, 40 and even older and  there are men under 20 years old walking this earth.   I have a 2 year old nephew who runs to open the door for the women in the family and tries to take grocery bags and carry them to the table when we women enter the house with them.He's just a boy biologically and he is watching and learning from his father. I consider and would call those that are biologically men but not socially men .. "Old...

I have often said that the opposite sex confuses the term "courtship" and thinks that it allows for games.  This is not only true of the opposite sex, but it happens in an analogous fashion in  the business world as well. In business, you  may come across people who are in roles that they are not well suited for or competent to fill. They coast along playing games and doing subpar work until someone comes in to lead and demands a certain business acumen and a sense of urgency,transparency,a consistent and clearcommunication style and what I like to call "thorough- putting" that are often missing.  These are the same things missing from courtship.  . When those screwing up the business opportunity are evaluated we often see that they had no goals set and no mentors. Likewise many men do not plan for their dating lives and often did not have role models that served as good relationship mentors as it applies to courtship.  They see other men mistrea...