A Blog by Adrienne Wallace

My very smart, aware and ever evolving brother said to me a while back that there is and will always be a significant difference between boys and MEN. He shared a strong and poignant opinion that a lack of self respect often the self hatred , absence of love, abuse, or negative cultural conditioning will always impact whether or not someone who is biologically a man is truly that (an adult man) mentally and socially. He and I both believe that it is indicative most often in the way a man treats a woman. I can tell you some stories. There are boys over 30, 40 and even older and  there are men under 20 years old walking this earth.   I have a 2 year old nephew who runs to open the door for the women in the family and tries to take grocery bags and carry them to the table when we women enter the house with them.He's just a boy biologically and he is watching and learning from his father. I consider and would call those that are biologically men but not socially men .. "Old...

Do you know that amidst the hustle and bustle of it all, despite the fear and dissatisfaction that we sometimes feel in our lives, God waits patiently for us to exercise the will and courage to get to our " allstate"? That Divine One is saying . "You were made in love, designed for love, originally accepting and deserving of love. That is your allstate. " If your God does not say this to you..if it doesn't resonate, let me introduce you to it today. How do we get there? Back to the middle? We are going to have to be really selective in our personal lives and happiness is the only alternative. Nothing should be increasingly difficult when we are sure of the bliss God intends. I think it is extremely important to let each person know what expectations we have of our lives and we must tell them and have them understand that what we want from them is only the things which support our life goals. It is in fact, a call to them to bring their best selves into ...

This is for the many multifaceted women of the world...Is there a better creation than us really? I often wonder, but I also wonder about what some of us lack. No better time to talk about us women than this March (2009) and onward when we observe, Women's History Month. So I decided to talk about a really big thing. Self-esteem, it is something that I have wondered if we are born with. Webster's dictionary defines it as — n. proper esteem or regard for the dignity of one's character. I believe that some of us just intuitively have a sense of high worth and dare I say, our divinity. This thing, self -esteem and respect is more likely a result of nurture than nature though. However, when I see the dainty ways, confidence and energy of some baby girls that I know ..I do have to wonder if it is actually inborn. My feelings are mixed on that. The idea that being influenced, taught, loved, and collaborating with people who have a strong sense of self respect themsel...

Find love within yourself before expecting to find it in others. It is easier to connect the dots that way. -Adrienne Wallace Hayward