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The DNA of relationships- The easiest science I know


The DNA of relationships- The easiest science I know


One night, I spoke with someone who I just met earlier in the year, This is a person who is quickly becoming a cherished friend. Talking with her and the few things we said to each other allowed me to think deeply about relationships and particularly friendships.

If you knew me well, then you would know that I believe that the way to measure a relationship can be as simple as "How you feel when you hang up the phone. "

I implore anyone who talks to me and also ask myself these questions:

Was Love expressed?

Was there Laughter?

Was there Honesty?

Was there good intent for tomorrow?

Where we centered during the conversation?

Did we listen to each other?

Am I eager to see, encounter, hang with this person and talk with him / her again?

These are things that I can decipher from a 5 minute phone call.

The answers are revealed in the DNA© that builds the conversation.
For me there are only two types and no hybrids exist.

Yeah, you might be saying, " DNA ? Is it really that complicated?" No it is actually simple! For me and those focused on being happy anyway: YES... it is simple.

If YOU choose for it to be. Then simple it is.

Our construct...all of us is simple. We know what we feel. We express our intent through our DNA© type.

Type One DNA© strands:

Deceptive, Dangerous, Denial, Deviant, Dis-ease

Negative, Naive, Nonchalant,Naysayer

Angry, Assumptive, Assaulting, Asinine

As I evolve, I have no time to dedicate to relations that match these strands.

I mean, you don't have to be a scientist to see that there could be many strands and depending on the day, who knows which one you could be exposed to. With these types of relationships we have to wear an emotional HAZMAT suit.

So not in vogue for the spirit to flaunt itself on that runway of higher living. YUUUUUUCK!

I have backed away from people who display these "strains" without any proof of evolution towards what we can call the "well strands" also know as Type Two DNA©.

Whatever this stimulates in you, please know that this thinking is discernment and not judgment on my part. It is something I have learned and have not always know.
I think it is important enough to share with you as it has provided me great peace.

I have a fairly loud and assertive; sometimes obnoxious and quaking thing called my intuition that will often reveal the pathology to me right away. Other times,there is an odd calling that must be fulfilled and then it is revealed. I trust the flow and I go with the process of identification. Once it is revealed, I exercise my power to move, shake, roll, jump, get away or stay.

Now, I did say that there are two types: So here is the one that serves us and our relationships best:

Type Two DNA©:

Delightful, Dedicated, Divine, Delicious, Determined

Nurturing, Natural

Assertive, Admirable, Actualizing, Awesome

No - I am not missing the N's. You see it is less uncomplicated and "NICE" doesn't cut it...trust me on this. Less strands, less complicated,and easier to diagnose.

So, we don't have to be scientists in our relationships. No test tubes are really needed. The strands create healthy strains that are viral and we just have to decide to team with people who have Type Two DNA © and spread it.

I know, I know the question is " Where do you come up with this stuff? "

My answer is that you've stimulated it; through the experiences, conversations, and values that make up the petri dish of our relationship.

Love, light, blissful life and great hopes that your DNA testing comes back with happy matches and healthy - well strands .... Type Two DNA © You deserve it.

Comments

  1. Brilliant. I'm writing the starnds down so I can remember what qualifies as the better things for me.

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  2. You make it seem so easy, I wish it was.
    Seems like you are a listener and good at writing waht you learn.

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